'[You're] 30 years old and still acting like an entitled child': Only child flips out at mother for planning birthday celebration after their actual birthday

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    AITA for throwing a massive fit over my birthday celebration?
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    I turned 30 today and for weeks my mom (who I live with), kept asking what I wanted to do. I said I would like a nice meal at a fancy restaurant. She said, no, that's too expensive. I kept giving options to what I would like, an overnight stay at any hotel with a pool, an out of town overnight/day trip, meal at
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    a fancy AYCE restaurant, or a cheap airbnb with pool access. She declined all of those because it was too expensive, too far, etc. She countered with treating the whole extended family (20 pax) to a cheap Chinese restaurant the day after my birthday because that's a weekend. Not even the
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    fancy kind. A cheap, almost fast food type of restaurant. She was insistent so I gave in since she'll be paying because it's "my gift". Mind you, our family is mid-upper middle class and I'm an only child so expenses aren't a problem.
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    On the day of my birthday (today), there's literally nothing. Not even a breakfast or lunch cooked. No card or flowers. Nothing. Not even a Facebook post. She said that since we're going out tomorrow, there's no need to celebrate my birthday today. I lost my temper and started screaming at the top of my
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    lungs that that's NOT what I wanted to do. I wanted to eat good food in a nice quiet fancy restaurant. Not have a mini reunion at a cheap Chinese restaurant. The price of feeding 20 people costs much more than the price of 2 people at a fancy restaurant too. Now
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    she's crying and calling me ungrateful. AITA? *we're Asians, living in Asia (for cultural context)
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    namesaretoohardfor me YTA. 30 years old and still acting like an entitled child. If you want that expensive meal so badly, buy it for yourself like an adult.
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    ParapaDaWrapper. ESH: it's pretty of her to ask you what you want and then decline everything. At that point, what's the point of even asking you. I understand it's her money, but
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    she shouldn't be offering to treat you, then holding it over your head by just doing what she wants for your birthday. Also you are 30, screaming and throwing a fit is not the way to handle situations.
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    kindcrow YTA. You're THIRTY. Grow up. Your parents don't owe an adult child a birthday party.
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    [deleted] YTA You're 30 year old, you are too old to throw a tantrums like a three year old because your mommy couldn't afford to rent a hotel room with a pool.
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    I lost my temper and started screaming at the top of my lungs that that's NOT what I wanted to do. I wanted to eat good food in a nice quiet fancy restaurant.
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    Not have a mini reunion at a cheap Chinese restaurant. Did you stamp your feet too?. If you want to go out to an expensive restaurant, make reservations and treat yourself. If
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    you want to go way to a hotel with a pool, no one is stopping you. You may be 30 but your are far from grown up.
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    Scheming Demin g YTA Yes. Also, OP, try holding your breath until you go purple next time. That'll show her!
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    justsimona This gave me second hand embarrassment lol. You are 30. Grow. Up. YTA
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    phtcmp NTA. She's made your birthday about her. Take yourself out for a nice dinner.
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    allsilentqs. NTA. Going against the tide to say it was odd that she kept asking you and then only offered you what she obviously already wanted to do. That is frustrating.
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    And if you live together, it would be disappointing to not even have the day acknowledged. Might have reacted a bit strongly but it's understandable. Especially on a milestone birthday.

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